If you have pain during sex, you may feel:
The most common symptom is pain with intercourse that occurs at your vaginal opening or deep in your pelvis. It can be a distinct pain in one area, or it may affect your entire genital region. There can be feelings of discomfort, burning or piercing pain.
Dyspareunia doesn’t necessarily cause bleeding. Any bleeding that occurs during sexual intercourse is likely due to an underlying medical issue, which may or may not be related to the pain. Seek an appointment with a provider if you’re having bleeding with sex. It could be normal, or it could be sign of an infection or underlying condition. Rarely, bleeding after sex is related to cancer.
In many cases, you can experience pain during sex if you don't have enough vaginal lubrication. But you can also have painful intercourse because of an infection, trauma, injury or medical condition.
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Pain during sex is more common in women, especially those who have reached menopause. But it can affect men, too. It happens to people of all ages and backgrounds. The pain is often due to physical factors or medical conditions, but it can also be psychological or due to a mental health condition.
The possible complications of painful sex are:
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Your healthcare provider can diagnose the underlying cause of pain during sex with a thorough health history and physical examination. The physical exam could include checking your pelvis, abdomen, vagina or uterus.
To locate the source of the pain and diagnose any medical conditions, healthcare providers may perform the following:
Talk openly with your healthcare provider about any pain during sexual intercourse. It’s normal to feel slightly embarrassed about discussing a sensitive topic like sex. But know that your provider has heard it before and is there to help you.
Some questions your healthcare provider may ask you are:
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There are many approaches your healthcare provider can use to treat your symptoms, but it depends on the cause. For example, if pelvic floor dysfunction is causing the pain, physical therapy may be the first treatment your provider suggests.
Some treatments for sexual pain require prescription medication. If vaginal dryness due to low estrogen is the cause of your painful sex, topical estrogens can be applied to your vagina. The U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) approved a drug called ospemifene for dyspareunia due to menopause. Your provider can also prescribe medication to treat pain due to infection or other medical conditions.
Applying a water- or silicone-based lubricant to your vagina, vulva and labia is helpful when dryness is the main cause. Those who have pain during sex should stop using vaginal perfumes, bubble baths, scented sanitary pads and fragranced toilet paper or wipes.
There are some things you can do on your own to manage the pain you feel during or after sex:
How long dyspareunia lasts varies depending on the underlying cause of the pain and the treatment. The treatment may work well right away, or it may be trial and error until you find the right treatment. All of this can affect how long you live with painful sex.
The good news is that you can often find relief and recover. Whether it’s medication, pelvic floor therapy, surgery or using lubrication — your healthcare provider can find a treatment that can improve or eliminate dyspareunia.
There’s usually not much you can do to reduce your risk of dyspareunia. It’s often something you have no control over. Some of the factors within your control are having safe and protected sex and maintaining good hygiene.
Contact your healthcare provider if you have symptoms like:
Painful sexual intercourse can be physically and emotionally difficult. Some questions you may ask your healthcare provider are:
Pain during sex can lead to physical discomfort, emotional distress and loss of intimacy. You don’t have to live with the pain. Dyspareunia isn’t just part of life or a part of getting older. If having sex hurts you, contact your healthcare provider. It might be an uncomfortable topic, but knowing the underlying cause of your pain is important. Your provider can recommend treatment so you can enjoy a fulfilling sex life again.
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Last reviewed on 07/25/2024.
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